Friday, March 18, 2016

How to Start a Conversation

Socializing with people is important to develop yourself and live a happier life. But how can you get people to talk to you? Well, they might be asking themselves the same question, so the best way to socialize is to start a conversation.
 It may take courage to talk to someone for the first time. But the beginning is always the hardest part. If you follow these steps, you`ll find yourself in a conversation where you forget to worry about keeping it up, but talk and listen automatically.

1. Say Hello

If you sit down next to someone, don't forget to say something like "Hello" or "Hi", so your following conversation doesn't come too suprising. Also with a polite greeting you let the other person know that you're aware of their existence. Besides, it'll make it a loteasier for you to continue: Greeting will be your first goal on your way to start a conversation which isn't that hard to reach.

2. Ask Simple Questions

If the person you want to talk to is in your school ask him or her something about lessons:
"Hey, did you understand last Maths lesson...?"

Or something you could nearly ask anybody:
"Your shoes are really pretty. Where did you get them?"

After you ask questions like these the person is going to respond and then it's important to refer to that topic for a little while. Don't attack them with different topics.
 When you get an answer on where the person got her shoes from you could tell her about you searching for a bracelet for a long time and in which shops you've been looking for it. After you finish your sentence you can ask the person which shops she likes. See? The conversation has already started.

3. Listen!

After you asked the person a few question, he or she will probably get more comfortable talking to you and start to give longer answers and then you have to listen. Don't interrupt him and let him know that you're interested in what he's saying by reacting. Laugh. Nod. Keep eye contact.

4. Smile!

Smiling is very important. How can the person think that you want to talk to him if you aren't smiling at all. If you don't smile, it will look like you are forcing yourself to talk to them and they'll probably try to finish the conversation.

5. Keep It Simple

You don't need to try to carry your conversation on and on and on... If you don't respect the short answers of the person and ask them the same questions again and again or tell them about something which makes them look away and try to escape the conversation, then it's better to stop. A good conversation doesn't have to take hours. Also, you don't have to tell or ask them everything at once. Still having some stuff to talk about you are both interested in is great, because that's a reason to start another conversation with that person on another day. So when you feel like you talked long enough to greet them the next time you see each other and your conversation is coming to an end then tell them politely that you have to go and say goodbye.

I hope these steps helped you to get a little more comfortable starting conversations. Feel free to comment your own tips on starting conversations more easily.

Keep smiling!


  1. Great post, dear! :) I always feel a bit uncomfortable to approach someone I don't know that well and start a conversation so I guess this is something I need to work on! :) x

    1. Thank you, Helena! I felt the same way, too and these steps helped me to get started, so I hope they'll help you as well. :)